Top tips for choosing your dream wedding dress
Finding your dream dress can actually turn into a bit of a nightmare. There are so many different styles to choose from. You’ll suddenly be confronted by a whole new language. It’s probably the most expensive gown you’ll ever buy. So, what initially looked like fun soon becomes seriously stressful! Follow these sensible tips, however, and you’ll soon feel more comfortable about making this big decision.
Take your time
Start your search about nine months before the big day. A bespoke dress takes about four months to make with another two for alterations. Buying a ready-to-wear gown means you don’t have to take decisions so early but there could be a delay getting your size and alterations may still be needed. Whichever route you go the bewildering range of options and issues requires ample time for research, discussion and consideration.
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Do your research
A whole new world opens up when you start seriously looking for a wedding dress. You are going to learn about basque waists, flutter sleeves, Alençon Lace, Watteau trains and the subtle differences between fifty shades of white. Embrace it - immerse yourself in bridal magazines, books, and websites to learn about fabrics, silhouettes, and the lexicon so you have some idea of what you are getting yourself into. Create a folder with pictures of dresses or details that appeal to you – this will prove invaluable when you start talking to designers or visiting stores.
Decide which silhouette suits your shape
Early on in the process you’ll have to learn about the basic wedding dress silhouettes then decide which ones best suit your particular figure (and which ones you want to avoid!).
A-line Silhouette: gown with slim-cut bodice that hugs the waist and a skirt that flares out gently in the shape of the letter "A" - universally flattering favourite that’s ideal for all body types.
Ballgown: gown with slim-cut bodice that hugs the waist and a dramatic, voluminous skirt for the true “princess” look. Ideal for most body types but can be overwhelming if you are very petite.
Basque Waist Silhouette: gown with a fitted bodice that extends past the natural waist and floats away from the body in a full skirt from the top of the hip - one of the most flattering waistlines
Bridal Separates: in lieu of a traditional gown, the bride wears a top with a skirt (or pants!) to create a unique look.
Column/Sheath Silhouette: figure hugging shape that flows straight down from the neckline to the hem. Ideal for lean frames and athletic body types. Also great for hourglasses who are looking to flaunt their curves!
Drop Waist Silhouette: a loose-fitting dress in which the seam falls below the hips rather than at the waist; often associated with flappers and the 1920s
Fit & Flare/Trumpet Silhouette: form-fitting gown or skirt that flares just past the waist /mid-thigh. Ideal for those with hourglass figure or petite brides looking to accentuate a small waist.
Maxi Dress: floor-length dress.
Mermaid Silhouette: sleek and sexy - contours the body from the bust to the knee then flares dramatically. Ideal for brides looking to show off their curves. Emphasizes the waist and hips rather than narrowing them.
Midi Dress: dress that falls to mid-calf.
Tea-Length Dress: dress that falls to just above the ankle – a slightly unconventional choice but one that has vintage appeal with a modern twist.
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Have a budget in mind
A typical wedding ensemble, including veil, undergarments, and any other accessories, accounts for 10 percent to 15 percent of the total wedding cost. Remember to factor in shipping fees and alteration costs. It’s really helpful to have a figure in mind before you start your search – that way you won’t set your heart on a gown you can’t afford.
Time, place and theme
Bear in mind the location, season and your wedding theme. If you’re planning a daytime ceremony on the beach you can rule out ball gowns with long trains and dramatic embellishments. If you’re exchanging vows in a candlelit cathedral avoid short slip dresses or anything that looks like it could be worn to a cocktail party. Consider the fabric too – most are suitable year-round, but some, like linen and organdy, are more appropriate for warm weather, while velvet and brocade are best left for winter. What’s more, choose a dress that’s in keeping with the overall theme of your wedding.
Shop smart
Create a shortlist of stores and call in advance to find out which designers they stock, the price range and if they sell accessories and provide alterations. You’ll probably have to arrange an appointment. Shop on a weekday if you can (but not during your lunch hour when you'll be rushed). Pace yourself - two stores a day max so you don't get tired and struggle to remember what you've seen. Carry a notebook and jot down dress descriptions (taking photos before you buy a gown is frowned upon).
If there are things you know you want to wear, such as a special necklace or your grandmother's veil, bring them with you. Boutiques will often provide bustiers, strapless bras, and shoes, but you may want to bring your own. Line up a couple of confidants who share your taste and whose judgement you trust to provide support and advice – but don’t invite a crowd as too many opinions can be confusing.
Keep an open mind
Try not to start out with a set idea of your dream dress. Even if something doesn’t seem like your style, or doesn’t look like much on the hangar, listen to the people who are advising you. Having said that, never let yourself be talked into purchasing a dress you're not in love with.
Think fit, not dress size
Bridalwear sizing is often on the small side so if you normally buy an 8, you may need a 12. Forget the number and don't insist on a smaller size because you intend to lose weight before the wedding—order the one that fits now. A gown is easy to take in, but difficult and costly to let out.
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Make the most of fitting sessions
You’ll probably need at least a couple of fittings to adjust a gown but ask for more if you think tweaks are needed. Sort your undergarments, shoes, and accessories before the first fitting and bring them with you. It’s also a good idea to get your hair done in the style you will wear. Check practical things like “Can I lift my arms easily? Do the straps stay up? Do any seams pucker?” For the final fitting bring whoever will be helping you into your gown.
Want to talk dresses?
In this post we’ve hopefully covered some of the most frequently asked questions – but the subject of wedding dresses is a big one so you’ll almost certainly have more. The team at Clevedon Hall can probably answer them…but if they can’t they know people who can – so don’t be shy about getting in touch!